Beauty in Battle Podcast

Dealing With Buried Emotions

October 04, 2022 Episode 40
Beauty in Battle Podcast
Dealing With Buried Emotions
Show Notes Transcript

Did you know that buried emotions never die? They show up in the strangest places and at the most random times often wreaking havoc on our closest relationships. Insecurities from the past, doubts about the future, fear of failure, overwhelming self-consciousness - all of these and more can creep their way into your marriage and hold you back from becoming the vibrant couple God made you to be. 

In today's episode, we'll dive into the two keys to properly dealing with emotions from the past so they won't hold you back in your present and how they can actually become springboards for your future. We'll look at a prophet in the Old Testament, how he helped one of his buddies get to the source of his problem and how he aligned himself with the supernatural. 

Our culture rewards people for "holding things together" when they go through tough situations. But doing so can damage you emotionally if you don't properly deal with the stuff you felt while you went through it. Even worse, if you hold onto it for too long, the weight will be too much to bear. 

But it doesn't have to be this way. You can thrive emotionally and flourish relationally if you know how to get to the root. Dive in and let's do this together!

Oh, and Tori is finally going to share her world-famous "ranger cookie" recipe. You won't want to miss that. 

p.s. We think you'll like our song choice for this week. Epic love song!

So today we're talking about buried emotions, which is, it's kind of a deep topic, but Tori and I have learned a lot in this category, and we've actually done several podcasts on the power of emotions and, and what you can do in terms of dealing with your emotions. And so what we wanted to talk about today is the danger of buried emotions because it can come up and bite you in the butt and it can wreck your relationship without you even really know.

Because there are emotions that you've had from the past. So, and, and I'm gonna give you a little bit of an exercise, but before we do that, we, we don't have a joke for you , but Tori does have a song. Okay? So this song is one that we've played at a, a few of the conferences that we've done. Yeah. And I love it.

It's one of my favorites. Yes. Um, it's called I Get to Love You. Ruelle Ruelle. Yeah. R U E L L e if you're looking it up. Yeah. It's epic. It is so good. So do you wanna play a little tiny? Yeah, I'm gonna play teaser. I'm gonna play just a little, you know, like eight second, ten second piece of this. But I wanted to say real quick, cuz Tori and I, um, I don't know if many of you have been to some of the marriage seminars that we've done, but one of the things that I typically like to do is on the Friday night after we do our second session, I like to get the couples together and we, we typically will have candles all in the room or whatever, and we actually dance to slow songs.

I love it the best. It's so fun. But we played this song, This is one of the songs that we play. We got several that we play. And, uh, it's just fantastic to see cuz a lot of these couples, it's been, you know, it'll be like decades since the last time they danced with each other. And so we force 'em to do it and it's fun and it's always a good time.

So this is one of the songs we play. It's, I Get to Love You by Ru Well, so what we're gonna say is we're gonna play it, but then we will, what we want you to do is find it on iTunes or whatever and then you dance with your spouse. Yeah, that's right to the song. And maybe we will too, huh? Oh, let's do it.

Maybe, Maybe we'll do it riding now. Hold on. Here you go.

It's the.

Okay, that's it. There you go. Ruelle. We were just playing this like in our house a few minutes ago and I looked at Jason and he was making full on eye contact with our dog, Rocky . Now I was only looking at Rocky cuz he looked really cute cuz he was sitting there staring at you. I was like, Babe, is this you and Rocky or is it me and you?

Hey. So if you guys ever do, uh, take us up on one of our marriage intensive, that intensive, this act that actually happens at our house, you'll get to meet Rocky. Yeah. He'll get, he gets attached pretty quickly. Yeah, he's very much e emotionally aware dog. Um, okay, so now we're talking about emotions. Here's what I want you to do.

Um, now you may be driving your car, you may be doing something where you can do this, but you might be working out and so you can't. But what I want you to do is grab your phone, um, if you can grab your phone and actually hold it out in front of your face, like with your arm. So you're holding the phone out with your arm straight.

If you don't have a phone or if you're listening to this on something else, I don't know what that could be. Just pick something, pick something up, doesn't matter what it is, and just hold it straight out in front of your face. Okay? Your, your arm is extended. Now, just hold it there. And now imagine if this entire podcast for the next 20 to 30 minutes or however long this is gonna be, you hold that phone or that object, you just hold it out, right?

The entire time. What do you think your arm is gonna feel like at the end of the podcast? Tired, . Your shoulder's gonna be burning like crazy. You might even feel it in your elbow, your forearm, I dunno, who knows where you're gonna feel it, but it is going to feel like you are holding a locomotive, but when in reality you're not.

You see, the weight of your phone is not determined by the physical weight of your phone. The weight is determined by how long you hold onto. . So the longer you hold onto your phone like that, the heavier it's gonna get. The same is true with your emotions. The weight of your emotions are determined by how long you hold them in.

Mm. So you can have true. You can, you can have like these crazy subconscious experiences that are so heavy and so weighty and you're struggling with your temper or you're struggling with some insecurity or whatever, and it just, Or you're struggling with a fear or doubt or anything like that, and it feels so heavy.

You're like, I can't over overcome this. I don't even know what's going on in me. But the fact is, is that's probably a buried emotion from a long time ago, right? That you never got to the bottom. and what we find is that our culture rewards people for people, for how well they hold things together in the midst of a struggle.

Hmm. Like, oh, look at her. She's doing so well. She's holding it together so well. Or look at him, you know, I know he's going through, he's real busy right now, but he's holding things together and our culture rewards people for holding things together. But just imagine that like you're holding your arm out, holding onto this.

Now, I'm not saying that you become a blithering mess where you're blabbing your emotions everywhere. No, no, no. Not, I'm not saying that at all. But I am saying if you look in the Psalms with David, when he wrote the Psalms, um, that was somebody who was showing anything but holding it together. Yeah. So in his prayer journal, which is the Psalms, David typically released his emotions like crazy.

Mm-hmm. at the beginning of the psalm, and then he redeemed him, you know, he'd release and redeem. So he would just let it out and he would just blah, blah, blah. God, it's awful. Like wicked people or making all the money and we're not making anything. And I know there's been so many times where I've read the Psalms and I.

He's got major issues. . Yes. David has major issues. But then you're like, this is like a man after God's own heart. Mm-hmm. . That's how God speaks of David. And that he's a man after his own heart. Mm-hmm. . And he's somebody who let it all out. Yeah. He didn't hold back. Let it all out. Yeah. And that actually reminds me of a song Shout.

Shout led it all out. These are the things. Okay. Yeah. So sorry about that. Um, Google that song, that's classic eighties. But anyway, David shows us, um, exactly what you're supposed to do in, in the privacy of your time with God. You're letting it out. Mm-hmm. , you're fully letting it out. Now. We, we did a podcast on this.

It's one of our first 10, I think. The power of emotions or something like that where we talk about Let it out, let it go. Let it happen. Yes. Those three steps, it's actually very powerful. I'm not gonna go into that, but those are three really powerful steps. But for David, when you look at him releasing his emotions and then redeeming him, redeeming him in terms of he would pivot, and then in the middle of crying out to God, talking about how bad things were.

He would actually say, But you are God, you are king. You are in control. You are powerful. You have created me. I am fearfully and wonderfully made, like all of this kind of stuff that David said. So he would let his emotion, He didn't, he didn't bury his emotions. Yeah. But yet he did it in his prayer journal.

Mm-hmm. . He didn't blast it on Facebook. Like, don't, don't go questioning God in public. on Instagram or Twitter or whatever. Yeah. Like, just let your questions to God go directly to him. Mm-hmm. and to some of the trusted people that God has brought to you in terms of accountability and people who love you and love the Lord, but, but you've gotta let him go.

And so how, how do we become like those types of people who don't allow our emotions to be buried? Well, we gotta process 'em. Yeah, you've gotta process 'em and then you've gotta pivot. So those two things are the only two things I really want you to remember before Tori gets in and shares with you some really powerful stuff that she's researched and learned, uh, about, um, emotions and feelings.

But just think about this process and pivot. This is what David did when I said he released and redeemed. Mm-hmm. . So he processed him and then he pivoted. So process. You gotta process the emotion first, which basically means that you think through it, um, factoring in God into the situation. So something that happens to you.

Like for me, when I was 13, if you read the book, 13 years old, got my heart broken by a girl, and, and I cried for about 30 seconds and then I toughened up. I walked right back out into that little party where we were as a 13 year old, and I never cried about it again, and I totally forgot. Until I started to experience insecurities in my own marriage 30 years later.

Mm-hmm. , you know, or 25 years later. And I realized that I had a buried emotion. Yeah. And it was so heavy and I didn't even realize it. And Tori helped me walk through that. So then as, as I walked through that emotion, I had to go back as an adult in my mind and say, Oh, okay. That, that situation there, Okay, I see what happened.

That actually. As big of a deal as what I thought it was. Yeah. And God was, you know, still on the throne at that, at that time. You know, and it may be a situation where you experienced abuse or you experienced. Abandonment or whatever, and it's important at that time. You can't rewrite your history in terms of the actual thing that happened, but you can rewrite the way that you process it.

You can rewrite the way that you remember it to where you think, Oh, you know what? That was a terrible, terrible situation. I, I wouldn't wish that on anybody, but it made me strong. Yeah, it made me strong because God was right there the whole time. Yeah. That's so good. There's a quote and I don't even know.

It come, it comes from, but it's emotions buried alive, never die. Yeah. And that's just so true for, for you, there was this emotion that was buried alive and it just kept on getting kind of hit. Yeah. And nicked. And bumped into, and. It became pretty evident that there was something down there that, that we needed to process through and kind of get to the bottom of.

Yeah. And you know, the story that that reminds me of, there's two actually. One is a Bible story, one is a movie, a Disney movie. We'll talk about that in just a second. But the, the first is a Bible story with Elisha the prophet. He and a bunch of his other profit buddies, they were gonna build another building that they, that needed to be built and they were all gonna do the work themselves.

So they had to borrow tools cuz these are, these are Levis, these are like priest guys that didn't have their own tools. So they all borrowed tools and they, uh, were cutting down trees and this one priest, Levi guy was cutting down the tree. When he went to swing his ax, the blade head fell off and it flew back into the river.

Mm-hmm. , and it landed in there and, and he yelled out, Oh my gosh, I can't, I can't keep cutting the tree without an ax blade. And two, it was borrowed. And, and back in those days, that was a big deal. I mean, this is like the tool of your trade, right? So somebody who earns his living by the ax blade, now all of a sudden this Levi lost it.

So that'd be like somebody borrowing $10,000 and wasting it and you know you're not gonna get it back. And so it was a big deal for him to get it back. And so he went to Elijah and told him, Hey, I, I lost this ax blade and, and this ax head, and, uh, it wasn't mine. I actually borrowed it. And the first thing that Elisha said was, Show me where you lost.

So the guy took him to the spot in the river and he pointed to that spot and he said, Okay, I lost it right about there. So then Elijah takes a stick and he throws it into the river and the ax head, the steel floated to the top, and then he said, Okay, now you see it. Now go back and get it. So the guy waited into the river and he went back and got it and that was a mi it was a miraculous story.

But I think the same is true when it comes to emotions that in our life as adults and in marriage, that oftentimes we may be responding in ways that's detrimental to our own relational and emotional and physical wellbeing because of something that happened to us a long time ago. Yeah. And, and the first thing that you have to do is go back to that spot where you lost your.

Like the earliest memory that you can think of where you lost the edge. Mm-hmm. , you know, like, what was it? Yeah. You know what, what did you go through? Did somebody laugh at you when you tried a new dance move on the dance floor as an eight year old? You know what I'm saying? I mean, could be something simple like that.

Yeah. But you've been holding it in all these years, so you go back to where you lost your edge and then you know, that stick that Elisha threw into the river. A lot of commentators say that that stick was the same type of wood. That was the cross, the, the tree that Jesus hung on, that was the cross. It was the same type of wood.

So, So you're now bringing Christ into that situation and you're making sure that you're reprocessing that same situation through adult eyes, putting Jesus into the mix. So now it's like Jesus was right there, the whole. He didn't leave me even though I may have felt abandoned. And the last thing is when you do that and you're beginning to reprocess, watch what happens.

The supernatural begins to come, begins to take place. And you know, ax heads, that's steel. They don't float. The supernatural came and took over and, and that act had did something that was against its nature. You watch what happens as buried emotions will start to come to the surface. When you reprocess through the lens of where God was in that situation and that he was making you strong in the midst of it, his supernatural power will come through and you'll figure out what it is and you'll be able to repro that, re reprocess that.

So that's the first thing is process. So that's the Bible story that I remember. So good. I love that story. And you know, uh, the movie tour, we just watched it like two weeks ago. What's that? Disney's the kid. Oh, yes. I thought you were going, I thought you were going different. One to a Disney. Yeah, I gotcha.

But Disney's the kid. Yeah, with Bruce Willis. I was so good. Oh my goodness. You guys need to watch that movie. It was so good. When was that? When did that come? I think it was, it had been like early nineties or something. Okay. Yeah. It's really old with Bruce Willis. Yeah, and it's my dad's favorite movie.

And so o other than Braveheart, obviously, or the passion, but Disney's the kid, you know, there this little kid, and I'll give you a little bit of a spoiler alert. So if you're gonna watch it, you can just press, you know, just fast forward this for a second, but I just gotta tell you because it's, it's, it's powerful.

It's all about Bruce Willis as an adult who's acting like a jerk, right? He's so busy and he's very filthy rich, but he's acting in ways. That it, it was all based on something that happened to him when he was a kid. Yeah. And so he was acting out of these insecurities and somehow, you know, in Disney, like fashion, His eight year old self, was it, was he eight?

He, Yeah, he was eight. I think he was, yeah. His eight year old self came back. Mm-hmm. . And now his eight year old self is gonna teach his adult self how to have fun again. And, uh, and so really show him who he really is. Yeah. Because he's lost himself as an adult, but his eight year old self, that's when he lost his edge.

Mm-hmm. . And then they show you at the, at the end of the movie where exactly it was that he lost his edge. His mom ends up dying again. This is spoiler alert. His mom ends up dying and his dad was so frustrated at the whole situation that he blamed it on his eight year old son and his eight year old son.

Now, Believe that he was the one that killed his mom. Mm-hmm. . And from that point forward, he was on a constant quest to prove that he was worthy. Yeah. To be alive. Just shut down his emotions. Yeah. And didn't let himself feel, He just became super hardcore and just success driven and lost himself completely.

So then you see Bruce Willis as an adult. Then consoling his eight year old self when they, when they went back through that situation, telling him, Look, Dad had it tough. You know, Dad didn't mean that. Like dad, you know, like dad, he was processing in pain. You know, Dad is just going through. The hardest time of his life.

Yeah. He doesn't mean what he said. Yeah. And so here, here Bruce Willis was, you know, reprocessing it as an adult and it, and it just changed his life. Yeah. And obvious this Disney movie. So everything's gotta work out perfect. But it, it is so true. That when you go through things early in life, and it could be, you know, early in your marriage, your, your spouse said something to you that really cut you mm-hmm.

and you tried to bring it up, but then they got defensive about it and so you've just buried it down. Right. And you've never really processed it through. Yeah. So that's the first thing is to process. The second thing is to then pivot right after you've, you've processed, you've gotta pivot. And the pivot is a mindset shift where you project power into the future.

Mm-hmm. , it's all about projecting power into the. See, Satan wants you to project powerlessness into the future. And another way of saying that is anxiety. Anxiety is about a future potential threat. Fear is about a past or present threat, but anxiety projects powerlessness into the future. And in order for you to pivot after you've processed your, your emotions, uh, you have to project power in the future and say, Okay, God.

Now here we are. I may still feel some of these same emotion. But I know the root of what was causing that. And I'm not gonna live in light of that anymore because you're, god, you're king. You can live through me. You can be powerful to overcome this. Yeah. So I say all of that to just, because I, I really want Tory to share with you some of the stuff that she's been researching, cuz it's, it's really helpful.

Yeah. Where we can start talking about feelings and emotions and those types of things. Yeah. Just to go back to the movie, The Kid, I think what was so powerful about that film was you've got the cutest little kid you've ever seen. Oh yeah. This is the cutest actor . We were just like dying laughing at his little mannerisms.

Yeah. But here's this little chubby kid and your heart is just completely, um, drawn to. As a kid. Yeah. And then he turns into this really big jerk, Right. And you're like super unlikable grown adult versus this the most likable kid you could. Oh yeah. Who could ever play like even probably even better than Macaulay K and on home alone.

He really was. And you're just so drawn to the kid. Right. You're just so drawn to the child and I think it's so important to remember we were all kids once we were, you know, even when you're thinking about your spouse, we talked about this in in past podcast, that sometimes you just have, you have to look at your spouse, like that's the kid in them.

That's something, there's a wound there that from maybe from childhood. Yeah. But there's a kid inside. And if you can, if you can see that and you can empathize with that, it really does change your, your, um, Posture towards your spouse and even towards yourself. Like, watching that, I'm like, man, like what were the things as like, what did I act like as a kid?

What were some of the things, some of the insecurities and the things that have, um, you know, shaped me into the adult that I am now? And it's, I just, I loved it so much cuz it really, it gets your wheels turning and thinking about some of those past hurts that may have defined you and that you need to get to, to the bottom of, and.

That reminds me of something that Rachel Beck said on a few of our, uh, a couple podcasts ago where, um, she was talking about her husband Eric, and they were talking about, I, I forget if it was good, good marriage, culture, or what it was we were talking about. But she said it was really important for her that when Eric was operating out of an insecurity, she had to look and say, You know what, that, this isn't 48 year old Eric talking to me right now.

This is 12 year old Eric. Mm. Now, of course you don't wanna say that to your spouse, right in the middle of it. But she was endeared to that. Yeah. Endeared to him as a, as a young man. Yeah. That's so good. Um, yeah, so we've read several books this year on emotions and just trying to unpack some of that.

Learn. And one of the books that we read was The Voice of the Heart, A Call to Full Living by Chip Dodds. Mm-hmm. . And it's discovered the gift of the eight feelings. And there's, there's so many books about emotions and there's even an emotion wheel out there that helps you to kind of define. What emotions you're feeling.

Sometimes it's just so hard for us to even know what we're feeling. That's tough. And um, but this one was a little bit different, but it, it was really, really helpful. And I, he uses a lot of scripture and basically what he's trying to unpack through this, out this book is that we have. We have feelings for a purpose that God gave us feelings, and over the course of our lives, feelings sometimes have gotten into the way of us feeling fulfilled.

Like we've, we've had these feelings and we feel as if they have, um, hurt us in some ways. Mm-hmm. . We have to kind of relearn the feelings and what, and know what the purpose is behind them. Yeah. And so that we can feel deeply. Um, and he talks about how, you know, So there, let me just kind of go over quickly that the eight feelings that he talks about, there's hurt, lonely, sad, anger, fear.

Shame, guilt, and glad. And those are, those are eight core feelings, core emotions that we have. Right? That everything springs off of that. Yes. So there's, there's so many different, um, different emotions that come from those feelings. Okay. That there's, there's eight core feelings. Yeah. And they have, each one has a very defined purpose and, um, but so, so often, um, it can turn into an impairment, it becomes this, so, Hurt becomes resentment when the purpose of her is healing and courage.

Okay. Loneliness can turn to apathy when it's purpose was for intimacy. Loneliness is meant to lead you to intimacy. I like that. That's good sadness. Um, it can turn to self pity when it was designed for acceptance and anger can lead to pride and de and depression when it's purpose is passion. Yeah. Oh, I, I get that.

Yeah. Know like even God got angry. Yeah. And then fear can lead to anxiety when its purpose was wisdom and faith. Oh, that's good. Yeah. The, the beginning of wisdom. Wisdom is the fear of the Lord. Yeah. Mm-hmm. teach that fear first, but when it's, But when we're using it in our flesh, it becomes anxiety.

Anxiety, rejected, powerlessness. Yeah, it's awful. It's is awful. And then shame. Can lead to toxic shame or contempt when it's, when it's meant for humility. Yes, that is true. You, you should be ashamed of your sin. Right, For sure. And it should make you humble. Yes. Yeah, exactly. And then guilt, Um, guilt, toxic shame and shamelessness when it was meant for freedom and forgiveness.

Yeah. Guilt. Yeah. That's, that's, that's good. And then the last one is glad. When it's not used properly, it turns to sens to sensuous or sensual pleasure without the heart. When it's purpose is joy with sadness. Which is, he, he kind of gets into that, in that chapter, but yeah. Um, it, it's so true. Like we, I think we, we think of being glad as this, you know, happiness mm-hmm.

and circumstances, and when the reality is there's, there's a joy that sometimes comes through sadness. Mm. That you have to deeply feel a loss before you know the joy. Yeah. And I can say that for anybody who's got, um, kids who are older. Yeah. That you have to go through the pain of, um, not having any time to do anything with anybody ever.

Yeah. And not be even being able to go out to eat. And you go through that hard time and then all of a sudden your kids get a little older and then they go off to school and the next thing you know, you can actually go out to lunch with your spouse and you. I'm experiencing a joy right now for just being able to go to lunch like I've never felt before.

Right? Yeah. Like there has, sometimes you have to go through things Yeah. To really experience the joy on the other side. Um, whereas oftentimes we just want so badly to feel that fulfillment of joy, that fulfillment of, of gladness that we substitute mm-hmm. and we look for the, the, the quick fix. Yeah.

Something that will give it to us in the immediate instead. Waiting for it. And, you know, uh, Eastern Medicine, which is Chinese medicine, what they talk about, and they've been talking about this for thousands of years, and it's only in, in the last, uh, probably 20, 30 years that Western medicine is actually picking up on some of this stuff.

What Eastern Medicine says is these obviously buried emotions, never die. But emotions, trapped emotions actually exist inside your organs. Right? Like, um, grief, if you felt grief over something and you didn't process it properly, it actually rests down in your lungs Mm. To where you, you have a hard time breathing.

Yeah. You know? Um, and there's, I think anger takes place in the heart. To where maybe you feel heart arrhythmia and you could feel some things. Yeah. And that doesn't mean that everybody who has trouble breathing has some anger, has some grief problem or anything. I mean, obviously not right. But I do believe that that's true because there are some manifestations in your body.

Yeah. Mm-hmm. . Yeah, for sure. You don't want to discard it and go, Oh, that's cultish stuff, Like that's eastern medicine or whatever. Well, there is some truth. . I wouldn't go all the way with it, but there is some truth to that, that if you've got buried emotions, it, it will, it will hurt your physical body.

Yeah. I mean, what is, uh, the scripture? I forget which one it says, but envy rots the bones, right? Like literally it's saying that the envy that you feel that emotion of. Envy. Mm-hmm. , which is the opposite of contentment. It's like you want something that someone else has and you don't want them to have it.

Right. It literally rots your bones, which means it will affect, it will negatively affect your physical body that will lead to sickness and disease envy. It's like you don't wanna be sick. Well, don't be envious . Right? I mean, there are plenty of other ways that you don't need to be sick, but it is true that that, uh, the emotions that you have, if you don't learn to process them and then.

Those two things, they can wreck your body, your physical body, and we don't want that to happen to you. Yeah. The Proverbs three, when you were saying that, I looked it up real quick cause Proverbs three, this is another verse. Uh, seven says, Do not be wise in your own eyes. Fear the Lord and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.

That's right. And when, when you read verses like that in the scripture, don't just gloss over it. Like you've heard that ever since that, you know, you were in vacation Bible school. Mm-hmm. health to your body and healing to your bones. Oh yeah. That's great. Yeah. It's good for you. No, no, no. Take that in. He just said it will heal your bones.

Right. Which means it will be a part of your healing process. You don't just need to take the pill, you don't just need to do the rehab. You don't just need to go to the doctor. You need to do these things, get your emotions. Mm-hmm. , go and process them, and then pivot. Pivot into power project powerfulness into the future, and then watch what can and probably will happen to your physical body.

That's, Yeah. It's so true. So, I love this stuff. So Tori and I wanted to just share that with you. Buried emotions, never die, don't hold onto it. Remember, the weight of your emotion is not determined by how heavy the emotion is. It's determined by how long you've been holding onto it. Just like if you're gonna take a pin, just a regular pin that you write with and you hold it out, hold it out straight with your arm and just hold it there for three.

And tell me how heavy that pen feels. . Yeah, exactly. You've held onto it too long. It's time to let it go cuz Satan wants you to hold onto it. And so right now, if you're listening to this and you're someone who, right now you're already thinking about these things and, and maybe you're feeling a little burned in your heart, maybe feeling a little burned in your spirit, the Holy Spirit's talking to you.

Spend some time with him, spend some time with him and ask God to show you and then, and then get someone or some others involved. That, that love you, that know you, and can help you process through that. Go back to where you lost your edge, reprocess it with the with Christ in picture. Okay? And then watch the supernatural takeover.

And then you're gonna pivot and you're gonna have a mindset shift where you're gonna project power into the future, and then you're gonna experience some freedom. So, so good. Here we go. Do you have a recipe? Yes. So I'm gonna share with you guys a recipe that you, Jason has made mention to several time times on the podcast and Oh yeah.

Some of you are asking for it. It's um, it's called our, uh, the Ranger. I don't even know what its called. The Ranger Cookies. Is it just ranger cookies or, Yeah, they're a Ranger chocolate chip cookies. I think it's just called chocolate chip cookies. Ranger Cookies. Okay. Uh, this is a recipe that we've been making for.

Let's see, over 18 years. Yeah, because it was, when we started, um, we started this bread Becker journey where we would mill our own weed. Do you remember that way? Brad Becker? Yes. You and I used to do that. Um, and then, It started making such a mess after several years. We're like, I can't do, can't do it anymore.

It was like our whole kitchen was full of flour. Cause we would get, we would get the actual grain and then mill it. Anyways, one of the recipes we have never gotten rid of, that's for sure. It's called grain cookies. The cookies. And it's with, um, chocolate. It's like chocolate chip, um, oatmeal recipe. Uh, oh my gosh.

We make them probably once a week. Yes. And Jason and I have like, I can't stop eating. Learned the science of doing it together, like. We can knock it out in like, I would say 15 minutes. Oh. And then I'm the cleaner guy. Yeah. I, I'm the, we got it down to a science, so we'll share it with you guys. You tell us what you think.

So to load these up on, actually this up on social media at Jason and Tori, right? Yeah, that's what you're, Go go to our Jason Tory Instagram. I will have this typed up for you guys and give you a little tip. With this particular cookie, you have to undercook it. Oh yeah, I will. I'll put that in the recipe.

I will correct the time. Cause although I eat lots of the cookie dough, when she puts it in the refrigerator and the next day I pull 'em out, it is a party in your mouth. You just, you just told him my. You just jumped the gun. Oh, that's what you were gonna do. . You're gonna want I'm an idiot. . So once you let these cookies cool you, the tip which Jason just gave you is the pro tip he couldn't control himself.

um, is you're gonna throw 'em in the fridge and cool them. They're so much better cooled. Oh. Which is, is abnormal for a chocolate chip cookie. But these ones undercooked and cold. Oh my gosh. The next day. They're so good. Yeah. So that's it, Ranger Cookies. And buried emotions. And if you've got buried emotions, make the Ranger cookies while you're processing through.

It'll help food . It'll help a lot . All right. Hey, thanks for hanging out with us. Don't forget rate, review, subscribe, um, and, and hit hit our website. If you, if you know, uh, any, any type of leader, anybody entrepreneur, anybody in the for-profit space, um, the nonprofit space ministry, whatever, Tori and I love talking with folks.

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you do you have good ideas? She's Italian. We do like food, . All right, see you next week. See you.